Tuesday, July 12, 2005

Happy Aniversary To Us

My beautiful wife and I are, today, celebrating our 2nd aniversary. Ok, we're not celebrating today, exactly, we're too busy. We're going out to dinner (Outback is soooo good) on Saturday.

Just so you know - I really love my wife. She gets better every day. We keep getting better at fighting, laughing, playing, talking, dating, and just being married.

Andrea=Awesome(not mostly, all-ly).

10 comments:

tabitha jane said...

made me get all watery about the eyes! hooray for weddings and love! and, you are right, andrea is the most awesome--you lucky duck.

i'm soooo completely sorry and sad that missed your wedding (i was in europe you see). but the pictures were beautifu . . .

enough about me, i'm gonna go hit the "back" button and stare at your beautiful wife again . . .

rebecca marie said...

yay for year number two! may the third year be the best yet.

also, anniversary two is the china anniversary. i'm just certain you gave gifts accordingly.

Big Mike Lewis said...

Congrats people! Live it up!

James Wood said...

RM: When I first read, "china aniversary" I thought it was like the Fourth of July for China or something - yes, I am dumb.

I will let you know the appropriateness of my gift after I give it to Andrea (we're not exchanging until we celebrate on Saturday).

Rebecca said...

She really was one of the prettiest brides ever. Georgeous!

Tim Lewis said...

Don't forget awesome DJs that show up 5 minutes before the ceremony!

Congrats dude.

Rebecca said...

oh yeah, he was the best, putting his tie on with all of the guests already seated. :)

Breanna said...

you two seriously had one of the bestest weddings i've been to (and not just cause it was on my birthday!).

also, major kudos to you Ha-May. i just love blog adorations of spouses. i'll call it "blogdoration." it's so sweet. and also, andrea=drop dead gorgeous and fabulous. what a hottie!

any advice from a year ahead of me?

James Wood said...

Wow, solicited advice? I'm not sure what to do when someone actually asks for my advice . . .

Out at our aniversary dinner we were talking about the good and bad in our marriage. From that conversation I would suggest that in year number two you work hard to keep learning about eachother. In the first year everythings is so new that you can't help but learn about eachother. It seems like every dinner, every morning, every moment you are discovering your spouse. Don't stop.

It will get more difficult to discover new things. You already know how Ben likes to watch TV. He already knows which way to hang the toilet paper roll. You have discovered the surface of eachother. Remember ogres and people have layers. In the first year it was all about breadth of knowledge - there was so much to learn, so little time. In year number two aim for more depth. And not just serious-tearful-heartfelt-conversation type depth, but what really makes Ben laugh, or excited (not like that . . . ok, like that too), or sad, or thoughtful.

Here's something that we thought was a great idea when we heard about it: go and get post-marital counseling. I am assuming that you had pre-marital counseling, if you can go back to that person and spend a few sessions sitting down and discussing what you expected and what you actually got. You don't need to be sick to go to the doctor for a check-up. You don't need to have marital problems to sit down with someone and talk about it.

You should ask Andrea too, she's smarter than me about this whole relationship stuff.

Breanna said...

Ha-May,

(i'm being serious here)thanks for your input. that's super helpful. Ben and I did the same "year in review" on our anniversary last week and it was really helpful. we also reviewed the goals we had created while on our honeymoon (we're planners like that) and assessed where we were in achieving them. it was very good to look back and see things we did well, and identify what we didn't do so good and make a plan of improvement.

I like your perspective Ha-may. nice to have someone who's a little bit ahead of me, but not too far that you've forgotten what it felt like.

also, everyone knows the toilet paper role should unroll from the BOTTOM.