A Third Place is a Leveling place.
"A place that is a leveler is, by its nature, an inclusive place. It is accessible to the general public and does not set formal criteria of membership and exlusion."
A third place is not a country club. It is not a church. It is not the PTA. A third place is free for all. At the third no one is greater than anyone else. A third place is inherently democratic (in fact the coffee houses of Europe were the womb of democracy in the Western world). Your boss has no say over you in a third place, nor do you over anyone else.
This leveling brings a joy that is not available in any other way. Because "worldy status is not the only aspect of the individual that must not intrude into third place association. Personal problems and moodiness must be set aside as well." If only for an hour or two the problems of work and home are irrelevant. One's purpose is to have fun and enjoy the company of others.
So maybe it's not a bad thing to go from work to a pub before going home. Rather than moving from one set of problems and hierarchies to another, one can have a respite. Ok, so I'm not advocating people spending hours and hours away from home and family, nor am I saying that it is good to drink to avoid problems. I'm just trying to re-examine the vilification of 'going out'.
How do you find leveling in your life? Do you find it at all? Is it all it's cracked up to be?